Friday, 28 October 2016
How to get a guy/your crush to chase you!
Thanks for coming back 😘
Today I'll be talking about getting a guy to chase you.
This was inspired by a Mark Rosenfield article I stumbled upon.
If you can't get a guy to chase you in this century and dating world, then you gonn have an issue especially if you're from west Africa where moms don't take it easy on their daughters if you're in your late 20s and you're not having marriage plans yet.
And I'm sure you girls love the chase. You love us trying hard to get your attention. The thing is We love it to especially when we finally get the girl. We get pride in the fact that our unique charisma and charm got you. And it gives us a sense of security that you won't jump into the next cute guy coming your way because they'll definitely come. When they do come, your dropping them off gives us joy, me in particular. C'mon, guys trying to get my girl means she's amazing in several ways.
So chasing is important. Now, how do you get the guy to do that?
I could give you tricks to spark his interest.
But before I do, I don't know if my crush is reading this. Hey Crush, if you're seeing this pls visit this page "you have" I wrote it just for you baby. And I want you to know I love you for being you.
That's that. Back to why we are here.
1. Build a high-quality, exciting life.
Men chase and commit to women whose world they want to become a part of.
It’s that simple.
The more passionate you are, the more exciting your world, and the more you are embracing the wonderful thing that is life, the more you can throw the dating textbooks out the window. Men will chase you, without you ever doing anything.
Any woman can get physical attraction and have a man want to sleep with her.
2. But the high-quality woman that men chase endlessly knows her real attraction isn’t physical. She works on herself and builds a life she loves, rather than focusing on how she looks or how men perceive her. In doing so, she radiates the confidence of a lady that knows any guy that gets her is the actual luck one.
2. Don't be in a hurry to get out of the single zone.
You want to date because all your friends have boyfriends. My whole crew are in relationships except me. They'll make fun and I'll laugh it off. Its my life after all.
Being single is the most empowering phase of your life.
When you’re single, you can work on yourself, without interference. You have time to build your dreams. But most importantly – you can still choose your Mr. Right – the biggest decision you will ever make, period.
Women in a hurry to stop being single push for commitment – sometimes in just a couple of dates – with the first decent guy they find themselves attracted to. Not only do they give up the empowerment of being single, without adequate information, to a virtual stranger, they’ve now engineered a situation where they’re doing all the chasing.
Men instinctively know women who are hard to get out of single life are women worth chasing.
This isn’t playing hard to get. This is just being so damn happy in the life you’ve built that you don’t want to leave it for a guy you don’t know well.
3. Don’t give him boyfriend benefits if he’s not your boyfriend.
So I have male friends and I know how we refer to girls who give out sex to every cute guy that comes their way.
It doesn't matter how pretty you're, so long as free sex is your forte and you're quite liberal with it "That one? I fvcked her like stupid" is the line he'll always use to describe you to his friends. C'mon don't be that cheap.
Sex gets the guy but never keeps him. He'll just tag you a disposable footwear.
There's greatness in you.
Contrary to popular belief, men love being in relationships.
They love the companionship. They love having an empathetic supporter after a bad day.
But there’s a saying. “Why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free?”
But most people relate it to sex. It has nothing to do with sex.
If you think sex is the best thing you have to offer, you’re underestimating how much men love relationships.
What I’m talking about is much more important to men, and much more valuable.
It’s the comfort of your emotional support, as his girlfriend, when he needs it.
It’s the security of knowing you aren’t seeing other guys.
It’s the excitement of you sending him some cheeky photos when he wants them.
He's not your boyfriend, but you go to his room to cook for him and do house cleaning. He will thank you of course. But his brain will tag you cheap. Its our default setting.
4. Judge him only on his actions towards you.
Many women chase men who have done absolutely nothing to earn it.
Don’t get me wrong; these men are usually attractive. They’re rich or they’re successful or they have abs. General attractiveness is a good start. Worthy of a flirt – certainly.
But it’s his actions towards you that make him worthy of chasing.
If you want high-quality men to chase you, judge them relative to their actions towards you.
If he’s a tall, handsome doctor, who doesn’t respond to your text message, then he’s a tall, handsome doctor, who isn’t worth chasing – period.
Too many women see the general attractiveness of guys like this and aren’t willing to drop them on their asses the way they would ordinary guys. They judge his attractiveness irrespective of his effort.
If you want a high-quality man to chase, your attraction to him should be directly proportional to his effort towards you, no matter how tall, dark, handsome or wealthy he is.
Thank you once again for reading. Express yourself with the comment box.