Friday, 23 December 2016

Guaranteed and Secure way to keep earning Everyday.


This may INTEREST YOU

Take time to read and digest the information below, it will Change your financial life forever!!!

 Let me introduce to you a simple money making strategy that guarantees you N370,000 in two weeks.

You can also be N370,00 richer in the next 14 days if you act now.

I Am Not Going To Sell You Any Package and You Will Not Need To Sell Anything To Anybody.

I Will Help You Make Money In The First 14 days And You Can Continue.

I Am Going To Show You A System That Will Make You Money Everyday.

You Can Use This System To Raise Money For Business, Pay School Fee, House Rent e.t.c

Everything In Life Works Based On A Well Planned System. Your Financial Situation Is As A Result Of Good/Bad Plans Or System.

Its better to try and fail rather than not to try at all, but you can't fail because it hasn't failed me before.

Its Not News That We Are In A Challenging Time In Nigeria But Few people Are Still Smiling To The Bank.

BRIEF EXPLANATION OF THE SYSTEM:


It's a network business called CROWDRISING. Follow any of the links;

http://www.crowdrising.net/ref/mjkskills


Click here to Register

Before you begin to raise an eyebrow, this is NOT like other network biz you have ever heard of.

This network is basically like MMM but it has faster and better pay and other advantages which include:

1.Unlike MMM that pays 30%, CROWDRISING PAYS 500% of your first investment.

2. MMM pays in 30 days but CROWDRISING PAYS in 4 days for first level, and 14 days for level 2 which is N370,000.

3. In CROWDRISING you are NOT mandated to bring anyone, just join and activate your account by paying the person you are paired to pay for activation into level 1.

4. Relax and keep getting bank alerts!

Level 1.

when you register, you enter LEVEL 0 in which you don't get any payments untill you upgrade to level one.

To upgrade to level 1, pay N7400 to the displayed bank account details of the person you are randomly paired with. Once you pay, call the person through his phone number displayed in ur DASHBOARD, with proof of ur payment for activation. Once the person confirms your payment, he will activate you to level 1. In level 1, you will get 5 payments of 7400. I.E 7400X5=37,000.

THIS LEVEL IS COMPLETED WITHIN 4 DAYS MAXIMUM

LEVEL 2:

Here, the process is almost same as level 1 but the amount is double. You pay N14,800 to someone the system will match you with. the person will upgrade you to level 2. Then, 25 persons will pay you N14,800. I.E 14,800X25= 370,000.

THIS WILL BE COMPLETED IN TWO WEEKS MAXIMUM. Then you are done with level 2.

LEVEL 3:

Just like stages 2 and 3, you will need to pay N22,200 to any person the system will match you with for your upgrade to level 3. Upon your upgrade, you will be eligible to get same N22,200 from 125 persons. I.e. N22,200X125 = 2.75MILLION.

 THIS WILL BE COMPLETED IN TWO WEEKS MAXIMUM. Then you are done with level 3.

LEVEL 4:

You simply pay N37000 to your matched person to upgrade you to level 4. Upon your activation, you will be eligible to get payments from 250 persons. I.E 22,200X250 = 9.2MILLION NAIRA plus.

The process continues till level 15 which is the last level.

NOTE:

1. You are not Mandated to get people into the program but you are encouraged to do so for the circles to complete fast. it's for the good of everyone in the pool including you.

2. YOU MUST USE NIGERIA REFERRAL LINK SO YOU CAN EASILY BE PAIRED WITH NIGERIANS WHO WILL PAY INTO YOUR LOCAL BANK ACCOUNT. If you register directly on the website without using Nigeria ref. link, you may be paired with Indians and that will make payment processes extremely difficult for you.

3. The earlier you register, the better for you!

4. Refer your close friends and relative ONLY THROUGH THE NIGERIAN REF. LINK by clicking any of these links

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BE SURE YOU AND YOUR REFERALS

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Friday, 4 November 2016

Inspirational!! Everyone Has a Story in Life

"Don't ever be quick to JUDGE. Words, once said can never be taken back" -  SOAL

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A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…
“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”
Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…
“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…
Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today. Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

"Always look for the best in others. Its rare, hence difficult to find unlike the evil in us"  - SOAL

Inspirational!! Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans


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 Have you ever had series of bad moments follow each other and you think you were never good enough for this world?
You have a goal and a wonderful plan to back it up, but then one minute, all is going well and the next you cant seem to get it right no matter how much you try?

Just know this one thing " Change the plan but never the Goal"

This story should help enlighten you. 

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.
He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.
After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”
“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.
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“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.
However, each one reacted differently.
The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.
The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.
However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.
“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “
Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.
Which one are you?

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Shake off Your Problems


A man’s favorite donkey falls into a deep precipice; He can’t pull it out no matter how hard he tries; He therefore decides to bury it alive.
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Soil is poured onto the donkey from above. The donkey feels the load, shakes it off, and steps on it; More soil is poured.
It shakes it off and steps up; The more the load was poured, the higher it rose; By noon, the donkey was grazing in green pastures.
After much shaking off (of problems) And stepping up (learning from them), One will graze in GREEN PASTURES.

Friday, 28 October 2016

How to get a guy/your crush to chase you!


Thanks for coming back 😘
Today I'll be talking about getting a guy to chase you.
 This was inspired by a Mark Rosenfield article I stumbled upon.

If you can't get a guy to chase you in this century and dating world, then you gonn have an issue especially if you're from west Africa where moms don't take it easy on their daughters if you're in your late 20s and you're not having marriage plans yet.

And I'm sure you girls love the chase. You love us trying hard to get your attention. The thing is We love it to especially when we finally get the girl. We get pride in the fact that our unique charisma and charm got you. And it gives us a sense of security that you won't jump into the next cute guy coming your way because they'll definitely come. When they do come, your dropping them off gives us joy, me in particular. C'mon, guys trying to get my girl means she's amazing in several ways.

So chasing is important. Now, how do you get the guy to do that?
I could give you tricks to spark his interest.

But before I do, I don't know if my crush is reading this. Hey Crush, if you're seeing this pls visit this page "you have" I wrote it just for you baby. And I want you to know I love you for being you.

That's that. Back to why we are here.

1. Build a high-quality, exciting life.

Men chase and commit to women whose world they want to become a part of.
It’s that simple.
The more passionate you are, the more exciting your world, and the more you are embracing the wonderful thing that is life, the more you can throw the dating textbooks out the window. Men will chase you, without you ever doing anything.
Any woman can get physical attraction and have a man want to sleep with her.

2. But the high-quality woman that men chase endlessly knows her real attraction isn’t physical. She works on herself and builds a life she loves, rather than focusing on how she looks or how men perceive her. In doing so, she radiates the confidence of a lady that knows any guy that gets her is the actual luck one.



2. Don't be in a hurry to get out of the single zone.

You want to date because all your friends have boyfriends. My whole crew are in relationships except me. They'll make fun and I'll laugh it off. Its my life after all.

Being single is the most empowering phase of your life.
When you’re single, you can work on yourself, without interference. You have time to build your dreams. But most importantly – you can still choose your Mr. Right – the biggest decision you will ever make, period.
Women in a hurry to stop being single push for commitment – sometimes in just a couple of dates – with the first decent guy they find themselves attracted to. Not only do they give up the empowerment of being single, without adequate information, to a virtual stranger, they’ve now engineered a situation where they’re doing all the chasing.

Men instinctively know women who are hard to get out of single life are women worth chasing.
This isn’t playing hard to get. This is just being so damn happy in the life you’ve built that you don’t want to leave it for a guy you don’t know well.

3. Don’t give him boyfriend benefits if he’s not your boyfriend.



So I have male friends and I know how we refer to girls who give out sex to every cute guy that comes their way.
It doesn't matter how pretty you're, so long as free sex is your forte and you're quite liberal with it "That one? I fvcked her like stupid" is the line he'll always use to describe you to his friends. C'mon don't be that cheap.

Sex gets the guy but never keeps him. He'll just tag you a disposable footwear.

You're Amazing.
There's greatness in you.

Contrary to popular belief, men love being in relationships.
They love the companionship. They love having an empathetic supporter after a bad day.

But there’s a saying. “Why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free?”
It’s true.

But most people relate it to sex. It has nothing to do with sex.
If you think sex is the best thing you have to offer, you’re underestimating how much men love relationships.
What I’m talking about is much more important to men, and much more valuable.
It’s the comfort of your emotional support, as his girlfriend, when he needs it.
It’s the security of knowing you aren’t seeing other guys.
It’s the excitement of you sending him some cheeky photos when he wants them.
He's not your boyfriend, but you go to his room to cook for him and do house cleaning. He will thank you of course. But his brain will tag you cheap. Its our default setting.


4. Judge him only on his actions towards you.

Many women chase men who have done absolutely nothing to earn it.

Don’t get me wrong; these men are usually attractive. They’re rich or they’re successful or they have abs. General attractiveness is a good start. Worthy of a flirt – certainly.
But it’s his actions towards you that make him worthy of chasing.
If you want high-quality men to chase you, judge them relative to their actions towards you.
If he’s a tall, handsome doctor, who doesn’t respond to your text message, then he’s a tall, handsome doctor, who isn’t worth chasing – period.
Too many women see the general attractiveness of guys like this and aren’t willing to drop them on their asses the way they would ordinary guys. They judge his attractiveness irrespective of his effort.
If you want a high-quality man to chase, your attraction to him should be directly proportional to his effort towards you, no matter how tall, dark, handsome or wealthy he is.

Thank you once again for reading. Express yourself with the comment box.

Tuesday, 25 October 2016

Do we ever escape the demons of our past?



There was this young girl with a really promising future. She was not only the pride of her parents but also the pride of her school. She went for all sorts of quizzes & competition and she aced them all. Oh God, she was a genius.

 To crown it all she was really beautiful, the kind every guy can't ignore. But then, thanks to her religious background, keeping them all at bay was a piece of cake.

Her mum was a  really great mum. She gave her what most parents couldn't! Gave her series of sex talks. Yeah! Sex talks, Not all parents are capable of that. 50% take it has improper, 25% are too busy, 20% find it uncomfortable and her mum was a part of the 5% that find it necessary! She didn't really have much of a dad, he died when she was 5, Lung cancer!

As expected she eased past her exams and got into one of the most prestigious universities in town (Uniben) and more blessings came her way when she got a full scholarship through her degree programme.

But then, you know how University completely changes your OT! It changed hers. She didn't know what to do with the new freedom she got. She's never been this free, went to a day school, so there's always a mum to check her every day.
Just when she was thinking how to attain maximum fun from her newly found freedom,  there came along the right (In a bad way) kind of company.

It started with partying, drinking and graduated to having uncontrolled sex with whatever guy she pleases. Damm! She could get whichever guy she wanted.

Did I tell you she has this chocolate skin with caramel topping. You get it, right? With the dimples and gap tooth or di-estema as science calls it.

Eventually she started skipping classes. But that didn't really affect her grades. She was genius. All she needed was the textbook & few hours alone and she's good to go.

But then the big bang dropped on her when she was in 300 level. She got pregnant & the idea of abortion petrified her. So after much deliberation, she opened up to her mum who was devastated at first, but what could she do! She is still her daughter after all. She had the baby, a beautiful boy. Her mum took care of the baby while she continued her academics and she also picked her deeds where she left off. Only this time, she ensured necessary precautions.

The worst then happened when she was on her 400 level break about to cross to 500 level. It was a cold Tuesday morning in January, with the harmattan and all. She woke up, cleaned the house as usual. She was bathing her boy who was now a year plus when she realized she hasn't seen her mum come outside which was quite unlike her. She went to her room to check on her and she wasn't there.

While she was pondering what was going on, she heard a loud thump from the kitchen. She ran straight for the kitchen & she got the biggest chills of her life when she saw her mum on the kitchen floor in her pool of blood. Her mum had slipped from the stool while trying to get baby food from the top of the top of the shelf.

In that very moment, she hated her self for having the baby at such age. "If only I hadn't had the baby, my mum wouldn't be dead while trying to get baby food" she couldn't get those thoughts out of her head. That was her wake up call and it came at a very expensive price.

Two months later, she was done with all that and she had resumed back to school for her final year. This time, she became a changed & sober lady. And she had to school with her boy who was now in a creche school somewhere around Uniben.

Finally, She graduated first class, got a good job. 7 years into the job, she was a single devoted mum who has been promoted twice.

Everything seemed to be happening right until she got a call from the hospital. Her son has being involved in an accident when an a truck ran red light and crashed into the school bus.

No fatal injuries, but her son lost a lot of blood and he was blood type AB(-) which was quite rare. Luckily she was compatible. She could donate blood. No stress. All would be well.

But then the demons of her past returned when the result from the lab came after screening her blood.

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It was contaminated. The tattoos she drew and the drugs she took in her university days have contaminated her blood. She had the blood but couldn't give it while her helpless son was dying.

Oh God. This was bigger than her.

The demons of her past caught up with her. And so her whole life was obliterated with 5 words from the doctor " we did all we could". Even though she was still living, she died that day with her son.

"There's no such thing as Redemption!
One Bad moment! One Bad decision!
And it doesn't really matter what we do for the rest of our life."
It becomes our stain!

PS: This is all fiction.

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Monday, 24 October 2016

Are we ever really Free? Does Freedom exist?


Have you ever wondered if we ever really have freedom or whether freedom is just an overrated word.
NO! We are never really free.
I realized most of us confuse Freedom for Peace. We can have peace, but that's not the same as freedom.

According to Merriam Webster dictionary
Freedom is
:  the quality or state of being free: as
a :  the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action
b :  liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another :  independence

So you see, we are never rid of constraints in action. Most of Our choices have effect on those around us, so we have to consider those close to us before making certain decisions. That's not Freedom!
We  are bound by the Laws of the land till the day we die. That's not Freedom.
As a country, We gained our independence but are we free? No! Not as long as we have bodies that keeps our actions in check like the EU, AU etc.

Peace however is defined as

:  a state of tranquillity or quiet: as
a :  freedom from civil disturbance
b :  a state of security or order within a community provided for by law or custom <a breach of the peace>
2
:  freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotions
3
:  harmony in personal relations

We always confuse that 2nd definition of peace with freedom. Its different.
We finish an exam and we scream "Finally I'm  free". No, now you have peace of mind or what I call a small scale freedom.

Small scale freedom in the sense that you're now free from that particular course.
The moment you graduate, you're Free from school but then, you're now bound by the rules of your work/ organization and ultimately, the rules of the land.

Peace is what we have, Not Freedom.
I mean Freedom can only be achieved in a lawless country and that would be dreadful. I can't even begin to imagine.

Some one asked me if we get freedom I'm death. Sadly, my response was NO. Whether In Heaven or hell, we still have a duty. There's Peace In heaven & that's the best we can get.

In Life & in death, there's no such thing as Freedom.

So I say freedom is another prison with extended boundaries.

Thanks for Reading.
I'm open to criticism. Express your selves with the comment box.
FolloSmall scale freedom in the sense that you're now free from that particular course.
The moment you graduate, you're Free from school but then, you're now bound by the rules of your work/ organization and ultimately, the rules of the land.

Peace is what we have, Not Freedom.
I mean Freedom can only be achieved in a lawless country and that would be dreadful. I can't even begin to imagine.

Some one asked me if we get freedom I'm death. Sadly, my response was NO. Whether In Heaven or hell, we still have a duty. There's Peace In heaven & that's the best we can get.

In Life & in death, there's no such thing as Freedom.

So I say freedom is another prison with extended boundaries.

Thanks for Reading.
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Monday, 10 October 2016

Poetry! You Have




This was all from my head while thinking about future Mrs. Me
I guess I do have some hidden talent after all.

YOU HAVE
The voice that turns me on.
The smile that I dream of.
The touch my body aches for.
The love my heart desires.
The joy that I hope to acquire.
The vision for which greatness is all I aspire.
So I will not only be your lover but also your helper.
The light shining around you that makes growing old by your side all that I require.
The kindness in your heart that makes my utmost desire to be a relationship that is deeper than normal.

The radiance all over you that makes you keep looking dapper.
The potential for greatness that is so clear even to the blind.
So evident even Stevie Wonder can sight.
The temper that makes me freight & yet the warm heart that from my darkness brings me back to light.
The personality that makes it obvious you are more than I deserve, but then a life with you is all that I wish for even if its more than I can ask for.
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About that! Maybe I can start my e-diary.

Read 10 things our mothers never told us! Just don't wet your eyes.


Mothers are renowned to be the most selfless and most loving set of people the world has ever known and there are certain things they have done for you that they didn’t even let you know.



Pregnant.

There it was, clear as day, two blue lines staring back at me from the small pregnancy test I had just purchased.

I double checked…

One line = not pregnant.

Two lines = pregnant.

Yup, I was definitely pregnant.

My heart was pounding.

My head was spinning.

My stomach was churning.

I was nervous, excited, scared and ecstatic all at the same time.

This was actually happening! After years of dreaming, preparing for and anticipating this day, it was finally here. I was going to be a mother.

Little did I know that in nine short months, I would begin the most exhausting, life-changing, heart-wrenching, but indescribably rewarding journey of my life.

In nine months, I would learn the price of motherhood firsthand. I would know exactly what it takes to be a mother. I would gain a whole new understanding of and gratitude for the beautiful woman I call Mom.

I would learn about things mothers experience that their children often know very little about.

Here are 10 things your mom never told you.

1. You made her cry… a lot.

She cried when she found out she was pregnant. She cried as she gave birth to you. She cried when she first held you. She cried with happiness. She cried with fear. She cried with worry. She cried because she feels so deeply for you. She felt your pain and your happiness and she shared it with you, whether you realized it or not.

2. She wanted that last piece of pie.

But when she saw you look at it with those big eyes and lick your mouth with that tiny tongue, she couldn’t eat it. She knew it would make her much happier to see your little tummy be filled than hers.

3. It hurt.

When you pulled her hair, it hurt; when you grabbed her with those sharp fingernails that were impossible to cut, it hurt; when you bit her while drinking milk, that hurt, too. You bruised her ribs when you kicked her from her belly; you stretched her stomach out for nine months; you made her body contract in agonizing pain as you entered this world.

4. She was always afraid.

From the moment you were conceived, she did all in her power to protect you. She became your mama bear. She was that lady who wanted to say no when the little girl next door asked to hold you, and who cringed when she did, because in her mind no one could keep you as safe as she herself could. Her heart skipped two beats with your first steps. She stayed up late to make sure you got home safe, and woke up early to see you off to school. With every stubbed toe and little stumble, she was close by; she was ready to snatch you up with every bad dream or late night fever. She was there to make sure you were OK.

5. She knows she’s not perfect.

She is her own worst critic. She knows all her flaws and sometimes hates herself for them. She is hardest on herself when it comes to you, though. She wanted to be the perfect mom, to do nothing wrong — but because she is human, she made mistakes. She is probably still trying to forgive herself for them. She wishes with her whole heart that she could go back in time and do things differently, but she can’t, so be kind to her, and know she did the best she knew how to do.

6. She watched you as you slept.

There were nights when she was up ’til 3:00 a.m. praying that you would finally fall asleep. She could hardly keep her eyes open as she sang to you, and she would beg you to “please, please fall asleep.” Then, when you finally fell asleep, she would lay you down and all her tiredness would disappear for a short second as she sat by your bedside looking down at your perfect cherub face, experiencing more love than she knew was possible, despite her worn-out arms and aching eyes.

7. She carried you a lot longer than nine months.

You needed her to. So she did. She would learn to hold you while she cleaned; she would lear

Tuesday, 4 October 2016

Marital rape!

* Drafted from Wikipedia*
Marital rape (also known as spousal rape and rape in marriage) is non-consensual sex (i.e., rape) in which the perpetrator is the victim's spouse. It is a form of partner rape, domestic violence and sexual abuse.

Once widely unrecognized by law and society as a crime or wrongdoing, marital rape is now opposed by many societies around the world, repudiated by international conventions, and increasingly criminalized. The issues of sexual and domestic violence within marriage and the family unit, and more generally, the issue of violence against women, have come to growing international attention from the second half of the 20th century. Still, in many countries, marital rape either remains outside the criminal law, or is illegal but widely tolerated. Laws are rarely being enforced, due to factors ranging from reluctance of authorities to pursue the crime, to lack of public knowledge that forced sexual intercourse in marriage is illegal.

Marital rape is more widely experienced by women, though not exclusively. Despite the popular understanding that marital rape is a one-time occurrence, it is often a chronic form of violence for the victim which takes place within abusive relations. It exists in a complex web of state governments, cultural practices, and societal ideologies which combine to influence each distinct instance and situation in varying ways. The reluctance to criminalize and prosecute marital rape has been attributed to traditional views of marriage, interpretations of religious doctrines, ideas about male and female sexuality, and to cultural expectations of subordination of a wife to her husband—views which continue to be common in many parts of the world. These views of marriage and sexuality started to be challenged in most Western countries from the 1960s and 70s especially by second-wave feminism, leading to an acknowledgment of the woman's right to self-determination (i.e., control) of all matters relating to her body, and the withdrawal of the exemption or defense of marital rape.

Most countries criminalized marital rape from the late 20th century onward—very few legal systems allowed for the prosecution of rape within marriage before the 1970s. Criminalization has occurred through various ways, including removal of statutory exemptions from the definitions of rape, judicial decisions, explicit legislative reference in statutory law preventing the use of marriage as a defense, or creating of a specific offense of marital rape. In many countries, it is still unclear whether marital rape is covered by the ordinary rape laws, but in some it may be covered by general statutes prohibiting violence, such as assault and battery laws.


This thing is happening! And its serious. Please don't keep it to yourself
1. Report to appropriate authorities it that's a criminal offence in your state.
2. If not talk to someone you trust to keep it discreet, someone you both listen to.
3. Otherwise, file a divorce. You're no use to your kids (if any) if you die of battery!
4. Most importantly, pray to your God.

Sunday, 2 October 2016

7 Things I've Learnt From Being Raised By A Strong Mother





1. I've learnt the value of independence. I don’t need anyone to take care of me. I can build a home, raise kids, cook, and do the dishes all while having a thriving career. I've pretty much learnt how to be Somebody. The only person responsible for me, my actions and my mistakes is the one I see when I look into the mirror. I am literally the architect of my future.

2. I've learnt the meaning of unconditional love. I watched my mom sacrifice her time, health and youth for my siblings and I without complaining or gloating about how much she is suffering or how much she is doing. She always has a smile on her face and is happily giving more and more of herself. She's taught me what selfless and unconditional love looks like, and I know I won’t be able to find that love anywhere else.

3. I've learnt how to love myself. How to walk away from the things that are not meant for me,  how to keep going even when the whole world is against me, and how to believe in myself when everyone is doubting me. Bad grades, heart breaks and failures don’t define me; what defines me is how I respond to the setback... How hard I fight to get the life I feel I'm  worth.

4. I've learnt that i can be both strong and soft.

We all have pains...some of us are just tough enough to hide them. My mum strong but then I've seen her hide her tears and pain. I've seen her stay up the night just to pray for the family. I've seen her struggle between being a good wife, being a good mum and being the mum that we love. The only thing I've never seen is her giving up. Because She's a fighter and a Winner.

5. I've learnt how to create my own happiness. I can find happiness in a difficult life. I can still be happy even if I am carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. My mom had taught me that I can always find something to smile about all I have to do is look closer and more carefully.

6. I've learnt never to look back. To let all the “what ifs” and “could have beens” go. How not to wonder why life turned upside down. I just keep looking forward and let the past redeem itself. And  that everything that happened got me to where i belong even if it is nothing I ever wished for.
The only thing I have control over is now and I intend to properly deal with it.

7. I've learnt how to be a good father. I'm being raised by a mom who shows me how to truly take care of a family, who shows you that hard work pays off, who shows you that you can love someone unconditionally. I'm always I'm awe of her being protective, loving, kind, compassionate, strong and resilient. Her lifestyle is gradually becoming my moral compass. I want to be that Husband that never forgets the birthday of his wife or her mum! That father that realizes the importance of establishing a close bond with his kids. Believe it or not... I'm working hard to become the man that I dream of.
My mum is my first mentor!
Shout out to all the strong mums out there.

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The Right 'why'

Good morning!
Thank you for dropping by again today.

Yesterday I blogged "10 truths that helps us get through the hardest times."
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Today I'll be addressing the topic " Address the right "WHY" "
We get frustrated over time when the sane challenge we keep trying to overcome never completely goes away & thats because we address the wrong why.

A wise man once said "when you fall, look at where you slipped and not where you fell"

The major reason why we suffer is lack of knowledge.

Heres an illustration...

Day 1.  You're rowing your boat with 3 of your friends and then it began to sink. Y'all swam ashore and luckily the tides returned your boat to you.
Y'all got ashore and you blamed the incidence on the weight that was on the boat.

Day 2. You drop one of your friends and took 2 friends along. After few minutes of rowing, the boat began to sink again and you repeated your actions... Swim out and wait for the tides to return you your boat. And like always blame it on the weight.

Another wise man said "you can't continue to do the same thing in the same manner and expect a different result."

Until you realize the boat has been sinking because there's a hole in the boat, two things are certain
1. The boat will keep sinking.
2. The boat will not return one day.

So if you've been having a challenge that has kept on reoccurring, Pause, Take a deep breath and ask yourself 2 questions
1. Have I been addressing the wrong reason?
2. What other reason could cause this issue? (Always think objectively I.e without sentiment)

In case you still don't get the idea of wrong/right why!

The boat in the given illustration could be sinking for several reasons.

1. The weight could be too much in the boat.
2. There could be a hole in the boat.
3. Some religious people could say its a supernatural force.

So you see, any of the three could be the "why" but only one is the right "why" in the given scenario.

Stop repeating your actions if you're expecting a different result. Try something new.

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Great Things Take Time!


Great Things Take Time.

GoodMorning! Hope you had a great night rest.
Thank You for visiting.

I had big goals set and I had the things I needed to achieve them or at least I thought I did.
But then, it was time to get the goal and I just couldn't. I was broken, my ego pierced and my self-esteem was at the lowest.

The worst if it was that my mates were getting it with ease including those I knew I was better equipped than. This made me intensify my efforts but the result wasn't different.
Inferiority complex kicked in and I began to see them as my better.
I gave in to the fear of losing again, stopped trying and went for other goals.
The story you're about to read gave me a new POV and I went back to my goal, hit it in a different matter and then it came through.


An elephant and a dog became pregnant at same time. Three months down the line the dog gave birth to six puppies.
Six months later the dog was pregnant again, and nine months on it gave birth to another dozen puppies. The pattern continued.
On the eighteenth month the dog approached the elephant questioning, "Are you sure that you are pregnant? We became pregnant on the same date, I have given birth three times to a dozen puppies and they have now grown to become big dogs, yet you are still pregnant. Whats going on?". The elephant replied, "There is something I want you to understand. What I am carrying is not a puppy but an elephant. I only give birth to one in two years. When my baby hits the ground, the earth feels it. When my baby crosses the road, human beings stop and watch in admiration, what I carry draws attention. So what I'm carrying is mighty and great.". Don't lose faith when you see others receive answers to their prayers. Don't be envious of others testimony. If you haven't received your own blessings, don't fall into despair. Say to yourself "My time is coming, and when it hits the surface of the earth, people shall watch in admiration."

The biggest of my story was when my goal came through, it was bigger than my mates'
Don't ever give up.
Winners never quit and Quitters never win.
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Saturday, 1 October 2016

10 truths that helps you get through the hardest times.

First of all! Its October 1st, Nigeria is 56!
Happy Independence Nigeria. I wish her Long Life in Peace and Prosperity.



“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”
–Friedrich Nietzsche

The wisest, most loving, and well rounded people you have ever met are likely those who have known misery, known defeat, known the heartbreak of losing something or someone they loved, and have found their way out of the depths of their own despair.  These people have experienced many ups and downs, and have gained an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, understanding and a deep loving wisdom.  People like this aren’t born; they develop slowly over the course of time.

Truth be told, when hard times hit, and the challenges you face are great, you can either let your situation define you, let it destroy you or let it strengthen you.  The choice is yours to make.

In today’s article I want to remind you of a few powerful, yet easily forgotten truths that will help you choose wisely and grow stronger even through the hardest times…

1.  Pain is part of life and love, and it helps you grow.

So many of us are afraid of ourselves, of our own truth, and our feelings most of all.  We talk about how great the concepts of life and love are, but then we hide from both every day.  We hide from our truest feelings.  Because the truth is life and love hurt sometimes, and the feelings this brings disturbs us.

We are taught at an early age that all pain is evil and harmful.  Yet, how can we ever deal with real life and true love if we’re afraid to feel what we really feel?  We need to feel pain, just as we need to feel alive and loved.  Pain is meant to wake us up.  Yet we try to hide our pain.  Realize this.  Pain is something to carry willingly, just like good sense.  Because you can only learn how strong you are when being strong is the only choice you have.

It’s all in how you carry the things that don’t go your way.  That’s what matters in the end.  Pain is a feeling.  Your feelings are a part of you – your own reality.  If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting the lies of insecurity destroy your reality.  You should stand up for your right to feel pain – to endure it – to own your scars – to deal with the realities of life and love, as you grow into the strongest, wisest, truest version of yourself.

2.  Mindset is half the battle.

It’s okay to have down days and tough times.  Expecting life to be wonderful all the time is wanting to swim in an ocean in which waves only rise up and never come crashing down.  However, when you recognize that the rising and crashing waves are part of the exact same ocean, you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs.  It becomes clear that life’s ups require life’s downs.

In other words, life isn’t perfect, but it sure is good.  Our goal shouldn’t be to create a perfect life, but to live an imperfect life in radical amazement.  To get up every morning and take a good look around in a way that takes nothing for granted.  Everything is extraordinary.  Every day is a gift.  Never treat life casually.  To be spiritual in any way is to be amazed in every way.

Do not let the pain of a situation make you hopeless.  Do not let negativity wear off on you.  Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.  Even though others may disagree with you, take pride in the fact that you still know the world to be a beautiful place.  Change your thoughts and you change your reality.

And mindset is especially powerful when it comes to accepting that…

3.  Your biggest fears don’t really exist.

When times are hard it can be difficult to follow your heart and take another step, but it’s a tragedy to let the lies of fear stop you.  Although fear can feel overwhelming, and defeats more people than any other force in the world, it’s not as powerful as it seems.  Fear is only as deep as your mind allows.  You are still in control.  So take control!

The key is to acknowledge your fear and directly address it.  Fight hard to shine the light of your words upon it.  Because if you don’t, if your fear becomes a wordless, obscure darkness that you avoid, and perhaps even manage to briefly forget, you open yourself to future attacks from fear when you least expect it.  Because you never truly faced the opponent who defeated you.

You CAN beat fear if you face it.  Be courageous!  And remember that courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid; courage means you don’t let fear stop you from moving forward with your life.

4.  You are growing through experience.

Over time you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that the easy and the hard aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to.  This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting.  With a positive attitude you will always be pleasantly surprised.

When you stop expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are.  Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected.

Experience is what you get when your plans don’t go as planned, and experience is the most valuable commodity you own – it builds your strength.

You have the power to turn your wounds and worries into wisdom; you just have to do something about them.  You have to accept what has happened and use what you’ve learned to step forward.  Everything you’ve experienced has given you the upper hand for dealing with everything you have yet to experience.  Realize this and set yourself free.

5.  You can’t change situations you don’t take responsibility for.

Sigmund Freud once said, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”  Don’t let this be you.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you surrender power over that part of your life.

Make no mistake, in the end, the price of happiness IS responsibility.  As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be.  If you’re unhappy now, it’s not someone else’s fault.

Ultimately, your happiness depends on your self-reliance – your unshakable willingness to take responsibility for your life from this moment forward, regardless of who had a hand in making it the way it is now.  It’s about taking control of your present circumstances, thinking for yourself, and making a firm choice to choose differently.  It’s about being the hero of your life, not the victim.

6.  The present is all you really have to deal with.

Life is not lived in some distant, imagined land of someday where everything is perfect.  It is lived here and now, with the reality of the way things are.  Yes, by all means you can work toward an idealized tomorrow.  Yet to do so, you must successfully deal with the world as it is today.

Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on past experiences, that it is not where we should be or want to be.  But the truth is, where you are now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow.  So appreciate where you are.

Your friends and family are too beautiful to ignore.  Take a moment to remember how fortunate you are to be breathing.  Take a look around, with your eyes earnestly open to the possibilities before you.  Much of what you fear does not exist.  Much of what you love is closer than you realize.  You are just one brief thought away from understanding the blessing that is your life.

Happiness is a mindset that can only be designed into the present.  It’s not a point in the future or a moment from the past; yet sadly, this misconception hurts the masses.  So many young people seem to think all their happiness awaits them in the years ahead, while so many older people believe their best moments are behind them.  Don’t be either of them.  Don’t let the past and the future steal your present.


7.  There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.

Life is better when you’re smiling.  Being positive in a negative situation is not naive; it’s a sign of leadership and strength.  You’re doing it right when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.

What if you woke up tomorrow with only the things you were thankful for today?

Think of all the beauty that remains around you, see it and smile.  Be thankful for all the small things in your life, because when you put them all together you will see just how significant they are.  At the end of the day, it’s not happiness that makes us thankful, but thankfulness that makes us happy.

8.  Great things take time.

Instant results are rarely the best results.  With patience, you can greatly expand your potential.  If your desires were always fulfilled immediately, you would have nothing to look forward to.  You would miss out on the joys of anticipation and progress.

Remember, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  It’s the willingness to stay focused, confidently staking one small step at a time, knowing that the way you move a mountain is by moving one stone at a time.  Every stone you move, no matter how small, is progress.

Bottom line:  You deserve more than mere instant gratification.  Value that arrives in an instant is often gone in an instant.  Value that takes time and commitment to create often outlives its creator – YOU.

9.  Other people cannot validate you.

When we’re struggling to achieve something important, sometimes we look to others to validate our progress.  But the truth is, they can’t…

You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours.  Pave your own unique path.  What success means to each of us is totally different.  Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

You don’t have to be flashy to be impressive.  You don’t have to be famous to be significant.  You don’t have to be a celebrity to be successful.  You don’t need to be validated by anyone else.  You are already valuable.  You just need to believe in yourself and what you wish to achieve.

You can be quietly humble and still be amazingly effective.  Just because people don’t fall at your feet and worship you, doesn’t mean you are a failure.  Quiet success is just as sweet as loud, flamboyant success, and usually far more real.  Success is how you define it, not what everyone else says it must be for you.



10.  You are not alone.

In the midst of hard times, it’s easy to look around and see a bunch of people who seem to be doing just fine.  But they’re not.  We’re all struggling in our own way.  And if we could just be brave enough to open up about it, and talk to each other, we’d realize that we are not alone in feeling lost and alone.

So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you.  We are all in this together.  So no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, know that there are others out there experiencing the same emotions.  When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it’s just your worried mind trying to sell you a lie.  There’s always someone who can relate to you.  Perhaps you can’t immediately talk to them, but they are out there.

If you’re feeling desperate right now, hear me:  I often feel and think and struggle much like you do.  I care abk out many of the things you care about, just in my own way.  And although some people do not understand us, we understand each other.  YOU are not alone!

 AFTER THOUGHT!

Hard times are bound to appear on way or the other. How we let those times define Isis what matters! Do they make  us or break us? Remember that the same water that Makes a fragile egg strong is what makes a strong bean soft.

Question. 
Have you ever faced hard times?
Did it make or break you?
How did you get through without breaking?